{"id":5978,"date":"2005-12-02T19:41:00","date_gmt":"2005-12-02T19:41:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/?p=5978"},"modified":"2023-06-18T19:48:22","modified_gmt":"2023-06-18T19:48:22","slug":"kadinlara-karsi-yanlis-tutumumuzun-kokeni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/?p=5978","title":{"rendered":"Kad\u0131nlara Kar\u015f\u0131 Yanl\u0131\u015f Tutumumuzun K\u00f6keni"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

“Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcyle i\u015f g\u00f6rme. \u0130mk\u00e2n\u0131 varsa, onlar\u0131 \u00f6l\u00fcden say.
Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n ak\u0131llar\u0131 ve imanlar\u0131 eksik oldu\u011fu halde, erkekler onlara neden uyarlar.” -Nas\u0131r-\u0131 Husrev<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

XI. y\u00fczy\u0131l \u0130slam “bilgin”lerinden Nas\u0131r-\u0131 Husrev, Saadet-Name adl\u0131 eserinde b\u00f6yle yaz\u0131yor (MEB Yay\u0131nlar\u0131, s.12).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ve sadece Nas\u0131r-\u0131 Husrev de\u011fil, hemen hemen t\u00fcm \u0130slam “bilgin”leri benzer \u015feyler s\u00f6ylemektedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin:
-\u015eeyh Sad\u00ee-i \u015eiraz\u00ee, G\u00fclistan adl\u0131 eserinde; “Kad\u0131nlara dan\u0131\u015fmamal\u0131” diye fetva vermektedir (Tima\u015f Yay\u0131nlar\u0131, s.202).
-Molla Cam\u00ee, Baharistan adl\u0131 eserinde; “Kad\u0131na g\u00fcvenme, g\u00fcvenilir kabilinden olsa bile itimad etme” demektedir (Tima\u015f Yay\u0131nlar\u0131, s. 46).
-Fer\u00eed\u00fcddin-i Atar, Pendname adl\u0131 eserinde; “sak\u0131n\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken d\u00f6rt \u015fey”yi s\u0131ralarken, “Birincisi kad\u0131nlardan vefa ummakt\u0131r ki, bu s\u00e2f insanlar i\u00e7in b\u00fcy\u00fck hatad\u0131r” demektedir (MEB Yay\u0131nlar\u0131, s.34).
-Firdevs\u00ee, \u015eahname’sinde; “D\u00fcnyada en iyi kad\u0131n, anas\u0131ndan do\u011fmayand\u0131r!” dedikten sonra, “K\u0131z sahibi bir baba, padi\u015fah da olsa, talihsizdir!” demektedir (\u015eahname-III, s.184 ve \u015eahname-IV, s:333, MEB Yay\u0131nlar\u0131).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ve \u00e7ok “ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc” Mevl\u00e2na, Mesnev\u00ee’sinde; “Kad\u0131nlarla me\u015fverette bulunun, ne derlerse aksini yap\u0131n. \u015e\u00fcphe yok ki onlara ayk\u0131r\u0131 hareket etmeyen hel\u00e2k oldular.” Ve ard\u0131ndan “Kad\u0131nda hayvan s\u0131fat\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u00fcr. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kad\u0131n\u0131n renge, kokuya meyli vard\u0131r” diyerek erkekleri uyarmaktad\u0131r (Mesnevi-I, s.237, Mesnevi-V, s.203, MEB Yay\u0131nlar\u0131).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fler, \u0130sl\u00e2m D\u00fcnyas\u0131’nda egemen olan g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerdir ve toplumu halen derinden de etkilemeye devam etmektedir. Oysa sosyoloji denilen toplum biliminden ve bir\u00e7ok toplumsal tarih ve hele toplumsal m\u00fccadeleler tarihi \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131ndan \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fimize g\u00f6re, \u00e7ok eskiden, toplumda liderlik ve y\u00f6netim kad\u0131nlara aitmi\u015f. Anaerkil olarak isimlendirilen bu d\u00f6nemde \u00e7ocuk babaya de\u011fil, anaya aitmi\u015f; baban\u0131n \u00e7ocuk \u00fczerinde hi\u00e7bir hakk\u0131 bulunmazm\u0131\u015f. Evin i\u00e7inde, k\u00f6yde, kentte, devlet y\u00f6netiminde yani her yerde egemenlik kad\u0131nlardaym\u0131\u015f. Kad\u0131nlar, sonradan, Engels’in deyi\u015fiyle “erke\u011fin proleteri” olmu\u015ftur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00fcsl\u00fcman bir \u00fclkede; erkeklerin egemen oldu\u011fu, erkeklerin y\u00f6netsel, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsel ve biyolojik olarak iktidarda oldu\u011fu, ekonomik ve sosyal geri kalm\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n h\u00fck\u00fcm s\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, yer yer feodal ili\u015fkilerin h\u00e2kim oldu\u011fu ve K\u00fcrtlerin yo\u011fun ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00f6lgelerde kad\u0131nlar \u00fczerindeki bask\u0131 ve ayr\u0131cal\u0131k daha da katmerlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bizler, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n e\u015fit haklara sahip olmalar\u0131na, sosyal ve politik ya\u015famda \u00f6nde olmalar\u0131na hi\u00e7 dayanamay\u0131z. Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00f6nde olmas\u0131, \u00f6nde gitmesi u\u011fursuzluk ve kudumsuzluktur. \u0130slam \u00e2leminde ve tabi K\u00fcrtlerde, yolda gidilirken bir kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnden gitmesine ya da arkadan gelip kendisini ge\u00e7mesine, \u00f6n\u00fcnde y\u00fcr\u00fcmesine veya yolda y\u00fcr\u00fcrken kad\u0131nlar\u0131n erkeklerin \u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc kesip, kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa ge\u00e7melerine tahamm\u00fcl edilmez: U\u011fursuzluk say\u0131l\u0131r, huylan\u0131l\u0131r ve tepki g\u00f6sterilir. Kad\u0131n dedi\u011fin daima erke\u011fin arkas\u0131nda gitmeli. Kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nde gitmesi k\u0131yamet al\u00e2meti say\u0131l\u0131r. B\u00f6ylesi bir durum \u0130slam\u00ee ve feodal de\u011ferlere t\u00fcmden terstir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bizler, e\u015fe\u011fin arkas\u0131ndan, av k\u00f6pe\u011finin arkas\u0131ndan, \u00f6k\u00fcz\u00fcn arkas\u0131ndan gitmeye al\u0131\u015fk\u0131n\u0131z. Ama kad\u0131n\u0131n arkas\u0131ndan gidemeyiz: \u015e\u0131k de\u011fildir! E\u015fek itirazs\u0131z y\u00fck ta\u015f\u0131r; k\u00f6pek veya taz\u0131 ava ko\u015fullanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, isteneni yapar; \u00f6k\u00fcz boyunduruk alt\u0131nda g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc kuvvetini hizmetimize sunar. Oysa “sa\u00e7\u0131 uzun, akl\u0131 k\u0131sa” ve “ka\u015f\u0131k d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131” diye hor g\u00f6r\u00fclen kad\u0131n bir\u00e7ok \u015feye itiraz eder, be\u011fenmez; \u00f6zg\u00fcr olmak ister, bask\u0131 istemez; \u00e7ok konu\u015fur, \u00e7enesi durmaz. Bellekte kay\u0131tl\u0131 bu ve buna benzer \u015feyler “hakiki” erkeklerde kad\u0131nlara y\u00f6nelik tepkilere neden olur. Naz\u0131m Hikmet bu nedenle, “Kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z” adl\u0131 \u015fiirinde, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n “sofram\u0131zda sar\u0131 \u00f6k\u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fczden sonra yer”lerinin oldu\u011funu yazmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 belirleyen \u015feyin belle\u011fimizdeki kavramlar\u0131n say\u0131s\u0131, t\u00fcr\u00fc ve sahip olduklar\u0131 enerji seviyesi oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrsek, kad\u0131nlara kar\u015f\u0131 ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcs\u00fcz oldu\u011fumuzun nedenini daha iyi anlar\u0131z. Toplumumuzun yar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 olu\u015fturan erkekler, k\u00f6t\u00fc insanlar de\u011fildir. \u0130nsanlar, olay ve olgular kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda sahip oldu\u011fu kavramlara g\u00f6re davran\u0131\u015f g\u00f6sterir. Bir kad\u0131n\u0131n kenara \u00e7ekilip yol vermemesi durumunda, erkeklerin beyini harekete ge\u00e7erek; ka\u015flar\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131lmaya, g\u00f6zleri d\u00f6nmeye, \u00e7enesi \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya, a\u011fz\u0131 laf yapmaya ba\u015flamas\u0131n\u0131n bir nedeni de sahip oldu\u011fumuz kavramlard\u0131r derim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cumhuriyetle baz\u0131 temel haklar verilmi\u015f olsa da, bu haklar emek verilmeden, m\u00fccadele edilmeden ve i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmeden verildi\u011fi\/al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7indir ki, kadir k\u0131ymeti az bilinmekte ya da bunlar\u0131n \u00f6neminin fark\u0131na ge\u00e7 var\u0131lmaktad\u0131r. Oysa kad\u0131nlar erkekler kadar \u00f6zg\u00fcr olmad\u0131k\u00e7a, toplumun sosyal ve ekonomik y\u00f6nden geli\u015fmesi ve istenen \u00e7a\u011fda\u015f seviyeye \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir. Ayr\u0131ca, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n katk\u0131s\u0131 olmaks\u0131z\u0131n d\u00fcnyan\u0131n de\u011fi\u015ftirilmesi ve d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fclmesi de m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kad\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6revi sadece kocas\u0131n\u0131n rahat\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak ve \u00e7ocuk do\u011furmak olmamal\u0131!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2 Aral\u0131k 2005
Ergani Haber Gazetesi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

fer\u00eed\u00fcddin-i atar<\/a>, <\/span>firdevs\u00ee<\/a>, <\/span>kad\u0131nlar<\/a>, <\/span>Mevl\u00e2na<\/a>, <\/span>molla cam\u00ee<\/a>, <\/span>nas\u0131r-\u0131 husrev<\/a>, <\/span>naz\u0131m hikmet<\/a>, <\/span>\u015feyh sad\u00ee-i \u015firaz\u00ee<\/a>, <\/span>yanl\u0131\u015f tutum<\/a><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcyle i\u015f g\u00f6rme. \u0130mk\u00e2n\u0131 varsa, onlar\u0131 \u00f6l\u00fcden say.Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n ak\u0131llar\u0131 ve imanlar\u0131 eksik oldu\u011fu halde, erkekler onlara neden uyarlar.” -Nas\u0131r-\u0131 Husrev XI. y\u00fczy\u0131l \u0130slam “bilgin”lerinden Nas\u0131r-\u0131 Husrev, Saadet-Name adl\u0131 eserinde b\u00f6yle yaz\u0131yor (MEB Yay\u0131nlar\u0131, s.12). Ve sadece Nas\u0131r-\u0131 Husrev de\u011fil, hemen hemen t\u00fcm \u0130slam “bilgin”leri benzer \u015feyler s\u00f6ylemektedir. \u00d6rne\u011fin:-\u015eeyh Sad\u00ee-i \u015eiraz\u00ee, G\u00fclistan adl\u0131 eserinde; “Kad\u0131nlara dan\u0131\u015fmamal\u0131” diye fetva vermektedir (Tima\u015f Yay\u0131nlar\u0131, s.202).-Molla Cam\u00ee, Baharistan adl\u0131 eserinde; “Kad\u0131na g\u00fcvenme, g\u00fcvenilir kabilinden olsa bile itimad etme” demektedir (Tima\u015f Yay\u0131nlar\u0131, s. 46).-Fer\u00eed\u00fcddin-i Atar, Pendname adl\u0131 eserinde; “sak\u0131n\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken d\u00f6rt \u015fey”yi s\u0131ralarken, “Birincisi kad\u0131nlardan vefa ummakt\u0131r ki, bu s\u00e2f insanlar i\u00e7in b\u00fcy\u00fck hatad\u0131r” demektedir<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1197],"tags":[3872,3874,3875,1988,3801,3876,140,3851,3873],"class_list":["post-5978","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-kultur","tag-feriduddin-i-atar","tag-firdevsi","tag-kadinlar","tag-mevlana","tag-molla-cami","tag-nasir-i-husrev","tag-nazim-hikmet","tag-seyh-sadi-i-sirazi","tag-yanlis-tutum"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5978","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5978"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5978\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5979,"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5978\/revisions\/5979"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5978"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5978"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.uzulmez.site\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5978"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}